Frat-scare

I was blog-hopping when I learned that a former schoolmate’s boyfriend was killed in Intramuros (near my workplace actually) last year. Apparently, the boyfriend and a friend were stabbed to death. It’s frat-related. Now you know why I hate fraternities soooo much.

ForeverGuy is a fratman too. I dunno what to make of it at times. I only know that it scares me every time he’s with them.

On brother/sisterhood

Just a piece of my mind. ForeverGuy belongs to a frat. Now, in my more than 23 years of existence, I have met many fratmen and women who belong in an organization that supposedly promotes “brotherhood,” “sisterhood” and all that stuff. But I will never, in a million years, understand the logic of fraternities and sororities. It’s a lame excuse to find friends and eventually, hook up. Many have survived the chasms of Med and Law School (or even college and high school) without joining a “cult-ish” group like frats and sororities.

So here’s one for the road: (just to get it off my mind)…

Fraternities are a sign of weakness–a neediness of some sort which a person cannot curb with his own informidable will. It’s a cathartic call for dependence–one that symbolizes a person’s inability to stand on his own. Whoever needs physical and psychological initiation for brotherhood signifies someone who is incapable of finding and keeping friends without the culture of violence and imposition that fraternities are most commonly known for. It’s a symbol co-dependence within a group of like- and narrow-minded people who finds comfort in inflicting pain, and in the future, demanding what should not be demanded and expecting what it has no right to expect. The rules of true brotherhood (or sisterhood, for that matter), of friendship is non-existence. There is nothing that governs friendship founded on common respect, in the natural way of finding and nurturing that connection. Fraternities make friendships superficial, companionships trivial and relationships unneeded. It destroys the balance of freewill and the true meaning of brotherhood.